Ever found yourself in a situation where the relationship is coming along just fine, you both love spending time together; however, you are thinking long-term and your partner isn’t ready to commit just yet? You wait because you want things to work out, and apart from the lack of commitment, everything else seems fine. But how long is too long? Is there a timeline to wait through for your partner to commit? And what if he or she never changes their mind? If you are contemplating, waiting for your partner to commit, or are bored of hanging around waiting for them to change their mind, here are a few points you should consider.
Is Your Relationship There Yet?
Yes, things are good right now and you are thinking long-term, but is your relationship really there yet? When you start dating things seem all champagne and roses, but that is not an accurate measure of the relationship. You need to be in a space where you’ve lived through the bad and the worse, and then decided to take it forward. Also, ask yourself if marriage is what you really want, or does it seem like the only way forward because everyone else seems to be doing it?
Are You Willing To Wait?
Are you willing to hang around, without a timeline, waiting for this relationship to get into the serious zone? Ask yourself how long you are really willing to wait to make this work. It might be months, it might be years, and it might never even happen. You need to give yourself an honest deadline before you start waiting for things to move along.
Does your Partner Really Need Time?
“I need more time” can either be just that, or an excuse to get out of commitment. You are the best judge of knowing if your partner genuinely intends to make this work in the time to come, or is just using the excuse to get out of commitment now, and even later.
Is It Worth It?
Yes, the relationship is perfect but if you are mentally prepared to move this forward and maybe get married, it is worth waiting for a partner who is doing nothing but holding you back. If you are clinging onto this simply because you are afraid of being alone, then you definitely need a rethink.
Are You Okay With It Never Happening?
It is a possibility that your partner might never want to get married. You need to ask yourself if you are willing to give up your need for a commitment in lieu of being in a relationship that is amazing. Is the balance of what you are getting, as compared to what you are giving up, worth it? If your partner is never going to commit, and you intend to stick around, you need to be okay with the idea of things never happening as per your plan.