In an ever evolving, new-age world of swiping right and live-in relationships, Kiara Advani holds her old-school beliefs close and firmly. Has she had her heart broken? Yes. Has she broken someone else’s heart? Yes. Yet, she doesn’t hesitate to admit that she’s a “lover” who wears her heart on her sleeve.
Kiara Advani excitedly revealed she’s an “eternal romantic” within the first five minutes of us conversing. As she propped her legs up on the couch, hair and makeup freshly undone post the photoshoot, we couldn’t help but notice the child-like wonder in her eyes.
Dressed in a casual sweater and a pair of snug, light-blue jeans, the Good Newwz actress seemed ready, and gutsy enough to champion her beliefs rather candidly.
It’s February — the month that celebrates Valentine’s Day — so naturally, we were intrigued to know what love is, according to her. “I’ve always been an eternal romantic,” she gushed. “I think this comes from observing my parents — they were each other’s high school sweethearts, they got married, and they’re still very much in love.
In fact, sometimes it’s too much, so my brother and I think ‘OMG!’… Kids don’t usually like to think of how romantic their parents can be, right? But honestly, they have a very good marriage and that’s always been my idea of love,” she added.
While a plethora of youngsters shun the idea of marriage today, Kiara is like a breath of fresh air. Her conviction in the institution is not only solid, it’s convincing. “For me, marriage is forever. If I fall in love with someone, that’s how I begin to think. Whoever I’ve dated in my life, I’ve always thought I’m going to marry that person.
However, now, as I’m growing older, I realise I need to be more cautious, of course … but I idolise the relationship my parents share and I hope to have something like that when I find my Mr Right. The thing is, because I’ve seen how successful they are as a couple, I’d like to believe that’s possible. Besides, I’m a Leo, so for me, it’s all or nothing,” she said.
Being a celebrity comes with a tonne of perks, but there’s a downside too, especially when it comes to falling in love. Why? Because finding a partner who’s in it for the right reasons is tougher when you’re a star. We asked Kiara her thoughts on this.
“It is true. It can sometimes be tough for celebrities to decipher whether it’s the real thing, but I like to think that I’m quite perceptive and intuitive by nature. I’m hoping I’ve been a good judge of character, whenever I’ve met someone who I’ve felt is right.”
So what kind of guy does a 27-year-old superstar in the making with old-school beliefs prefer? “I like someone who is self-made and hardworking. A man who is passionate and a go-getter, for sure! I like someone who is very respectful and family-oriented because I’m like that.
We should be best friends above everything else, I think,” she shared. We then asked her the prototype she stays away from. “I will never tolerate someone who indulges in any form of violence or infidelity. I believe in equality and so should my guy.”
Yes, I did relate to Preethi (from Kabir Singh). She was a die-hard romantic — a lover who was blinded in love. I’m a lover, too… Whoever I’ve dated in my life, I’ve always thought I’m going to marry that person.
Speaking of violence, Kiara’s film Kabir Singh, starring Shahid Kapoor, is one that tells the story of a hot-headed surgeon who goes down the path of self-destruction after his lover leaves him. She, of course, plays ‘Preethi’ the love of his life — a submissive natured girl who let’s love devour her.
While Kiara’s performance was effortless, the critics slammed her for the portrayal of someone who gave into the whims of a monstrous, misogynistic man. We had to ask if she related to ‘Preethi’ in any way. “Yes, I did! Preethi was a die-hard romantic — a lover who was blinded in love. I’m a lover, too!” she claimed, without flinching.
Kiara spilled the beans on the very first time she thought she was in love. “I was 18 or 19 when I first felt I was in love. It was a wonderful feeling back then … but now, looking back, I don’t think it was love,” she giggled. “I wasn’t in love, but there was affection. Now, after so many years, I feel a different kind of love towards him,” she said. So does Kiara advocate maintaining a cordial relationship with an ex? “Why not?” she asks, defiantly.
“I’m friends with all my exes! I think when you’re in a relationship, it’s partly your duty to make your partner feel secure, so that they trust you. I would never give my partner a reason to have an issue. Insecurity doesn’t always stem from one side, it’s how you make the other person feel, too. If I make my man feel secure, there’s no reason he should have a problem with me being friends with an ex,” she smiled.
Valentine’s Day is upon us, so we assumed this die-hard romantic would have something planned for this special day. But she surprised us. “I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day, to be honest. I mean, yes, it’s another opportunity to make your loved one feel special, but it’s just like any other day for me.
It’s a little too cheesy and mushy, but if someone is making the effort to make you feel special, I guess it’s sweet and should be valued. For me, it’s cool if he sends the whole chocolates and flowers, and I’m also okay if he doesn’t,” Kiara said. Having said that, the actress did make one thing clear — she’s traditional in her ways, and prefers the man to make the first move.
Kiara has broken hearts and has had her heart broken. We asked her which one is worse, and she honestly revealed, “At the cost of sounding selfish, I’d pick breaking someone else’s heart.” As uncomfortable as that is to say and hear, let’s be honest, it’s true for most of us.
Maybe that’s why, when it comes to the dating game, several women find themselves attracted to the “bad boys”. However, when it’s about settling down, we decide to go for the antithesis of this; as a method of self-preservation, probably. “I think that’s true for about 50% of women. We date the complete opposite of what we marry,” she said.
In India, we are burdened by cultural fantasies that may sound morally correct, but restrict us from doing things our way. The pressure for women to tie the knot after a certain age is one of these things. Speaking about how we’re often hurried into marriage and rushed into starting a family, Kiara said, “I believe there shouldn’t be any specific time frame to fall in love.
You could find the love of your life at 30, 60 of 90 … age should not be a criteria to be able to do anything. You should get married for the right reasons, not because others feel it’s time. For me, it has more to do with whether you’re ready for that kind of commitment — only you can and should decide when that is.”
When it comes to online dating, Kiara thinks it’s intriguing and says it’s viable to find authentic love online. Though she may not opt for this herself, her upcoming film,
Abir Sengupta’s Indoo Ki Jawani, has her falling in love over a dating site, which upped her trust in the many possibilities of the virtual world. Kiara may be a traditionalist in her thoughts about love, but don’t let that fool you — she’s woke, strong-headed and nobody’s fool.